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    "text": "You're not okay, and it's OK."
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    "text": "My guest says God spoke that to him alone in his den... ...and he can finally breathe!"
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    "start": 9.08,
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    "text": "It is NOT the episode I planned a record but its THE ONE I NEEDED, AND I THINK YOU WILL TOO."
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    "text": "Today i get the pleasure of talking with Brad Rhodes who left a twenty-two year law career to fight for marriages and wrote The Grace Marriage."
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    "text": "We talked about performance based faith…."
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    "text": "…the four words from his wife that pulled him off his own rollercoaster and why grace has to come from the person who knows you, the worst."
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    "text": "Before we get started don't forget hit that like button."
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    "start": 54.0,
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    "text": "and your wife, in your ministry."
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    "text": "It's all about marriage."
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    "start": 57.36,
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    "text": "I feel like when i was doing my background research on you guys."
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    "text": "um it was everything was lining up."
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    "start": 63.28,
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    "text": "so good!"
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    "text": "So excited to talk about these things."
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    "start": 66.54,
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    "text": "My last episode I just recorded was at home school."
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    "text": "now we get to dive deep into marriage again."
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    "start": 71.92,
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    "text": "Um...I try always gear every conversation back to marriage because the fundamentals of what my ministry is about What are your ministries?"
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    "text": "But also believe that marriages I mean, it's the first institution God set up was marriage."
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    "text": "god made his marriage and think nearly everything flows from out of that union that God designed."
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    "text": "so yeah i hope this conversation today is going to do just that point."
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    "text": "people back to Christ what the Institution of Marriage meant for before we get in our audience."
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    "text": "Who is Brad Rhodes?"
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    "text": "What do you do, what's the Grace Marriage Ministry about?"
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    "text": "I'd love to know about your marriage also."
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    "text": "how long have been married kids all those things."
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    "text": "then they obviously came from my marriage Maryland and be married thirty years."
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    "text": "um kind of little bit about me."
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    "text": "Um, put a lot of time and effort into my law practice very little in the Maryland."
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    "text": "i mean It still is fun in our next dates tonight."
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    "text": "So that's so well, we've done the last ten years."
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    "text": "Well man actually want to dig into this church marriage minister thing a lot deeper before We get there."
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    "text": "I'd love to hear, because the story that you just shared about early in marriage what your wife went through which by the way my wife had a very similar experience."
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    "text": "so He In Your book You call that an intervention."
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    "text": "It was a shift for me because from an identity standpoint, I've heard it said."
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    "text": "Amen I love where this conversation went."
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    "text": "It was necessary for me And i know a lot people struggle with it The condemnation, the lack of grace You know judgment Of an enemy or judgement around us."
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    "text": "We condemn ourselves, we love ourselves pretty terribly sometimes and so I just hope that everyone listening picked that up because this is the foundation of The Gospel which is a free gift of grace God gives us at the cross in Jesus Christ."
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    "text": "Like I've had bad three weeks you know i have been struggling with my dad feel like watching him pass on."
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    "text": "it's really And I've been disconnected from Marilyn."
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    "text": "I'm not been available, and raised my voice but certainly not very nice... But i'm talking to you....I am fine!"
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    "text": "I'm excited about her Nathan."
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    "text": "Just all down-and-out saying how can somebody who does marriage for a living do he knows better than this?"
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    "text": "You know..i don't feel that way at"
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    "text": "At the same time, Marilyn because she gets grace."
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    "text": "It's not like I've got a bunch of makeup work to do Because i've been in my A for three weeks and we're fine."
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    "text": "but We're fine Not because Of me or because her were fine because it Jesus And its so nice!"
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    "text": "Before I understood Grace I'd be sitting here thinking How could I Be So dumb?"
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    "text": "I know To live above emotion...I Know not to let Emotion control..I know not to isolate....And how Could I...?"
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    "start": 2881.48,
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    "text": "Rested soul just couldn't, wouldn't have a chance."
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  {
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    "text": "Man Brad thank you for"
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  {
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    "text": "that."
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  {
    "start": 2888.56,
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    "text": "um it was really encouraging."
  },
  {
    "start": 2890.84,
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    "text": "there's...I wanted to talk about the church more but i'm glad we went this direction.. I'd love for you to."
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  {
    "start": 2895.06,
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    "text": "uh just come do a close."
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  {
    "start": 2898.12,
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    "text": "would you share?"
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  {
    "start": 2899.54,
    "end": 2906.44,
    "text": "Just title your book where they can get it and yeah make sure put these links in show notes as well."
  },
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    "start": 2907.0,
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    "text": "Yeah, it's."
  },
  {
    "start": 2907.52,
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    "text": "the title of book is The Grace Marriage."
  },
  {
    "start": 2909.62,
    "end": 2911.3,
    "text": "It was published by Moody Publishers."
  },
  {
    "start": 2911.48,
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    "text": "you can get anywhere from Amazon wherever sells books."
  },
  {
    "start": 2914.7,
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    "text": "and more than that I would love to go to gracemarriage.com because our longing we do believe the book is helpful and will help you in your marriage."
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  {
    "start": 2926.66,
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    "text": "Our longing is at there be a massive movement among churches."
  },
  {
    "start": 2929.52,
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    "text": "they have ongoing marriage ministries."
  },
  {
    "start": 2931.02,
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    "text": "so if your church either just has one program It doesn't have an ongoing discipleship platform, or if your church didn't have a marriage ministry at all."
  },
  {
    "start": 2938.58,
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    "text": "That's what we do."
  },
  {
    "start": 2939.88,
    "end": 2941.54,
    "text": "so gracemarriage.com is where you find that."
  },
  {
    "start": 2942.56,
    "end": 2952.1,
    "text": "Hey man hey If you're listening go-go Do that sign your church up get them to But just put their churches email address on there and have Grace Marish start sending him some emails about."
  },
  {
    "start": 2952.38,
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    "text": "but they're curriculum."
  },
  {
    "start": 2953.1,
    "end": 2963.06,
    "text": "because I totally agree with this and believe in this idea of um that The number one focus any Church should be marriage not that it should be the only Focus."
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  {
    "start": 2963.94,
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    "text": "But man, we like yeah."
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  {
    "start": 2965.62,
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    "text": "Like you said in the beginning premarital and crisis."
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  {
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    "text": "And yet The most important time is everything between that."
  },
  {
    "start": 2973.42,
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    "text": "so And oh and the kids fall."
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  {
    "start": 2976.7,
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    "text": "You know follow the parents and it's just a hundred percent agree go check out the grace marriage calm and Hey Brad Thank you So much for That was really encouraging and I'm sorry to hear about your dad and he's going through hard season."
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  {
    "start": 2990.22,
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    "text": "Yeah hits bits, you know its um."
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  {
    "start": 2992.76,
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    "text": "Yeah, appreciate you."
  },
  {
    "start": 2993.56,
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    "text": "Appreciate your prayers on that and I just need to."
  },
  {
    "start": 2996.22,
    "end": 2998.28,
    "text": "yeah it's a tough hard process."
  },
  {
    "start": 2999.86,
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    "text": "God bless you man And thank you for your time"
  },
  {
    "start": 3001.96,
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    "text": "Thank You."
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